Elinor’s 1920 Feb. 20. letter & sporadic entries May. 17. -Dec. 1920 Diary Pages
[Feb. 20. 1920] [There is a letter in February 20, 1920 to Frank W Babcock (Buffalo, N.Y.) from his brother Leslie McCarthy (2.R.#6) Hillyard Washington c/o Minis Hotel. : “Hillyard Wash. Feb, 20, 1920, Dear Bro:- I think it is about time I am answering your letter’s as I owe you two but the reason why I didn’t write sooner is because we were chasing around again and I thought I would wait until I got an address again I congratulate you on your good luck in receiving such a good issue of license. I am now out on a ranch with my father-in-law to spend a couple of months before we go to Montana. Well Wiley I wish you have good luck in getting a boat. I haven’t heard from home for quite awhile so I don’t know how the folks are getting along. Mary got a letter from Anna a short while ago and they are in Philie. again and she said in her letter that Walter is carring on again worse than ever, he-made all kinds of bad threats to her, but she said she was trying to get along the best she can as he figured on going to Texas in a short while. I suppose Dan has gone out on the salt water by this time I hope he get along alright, I would like to hear from Dan once in awhile I havent heard from for about eight year’e. If I don’t do well with the mine’s I am going to try farming I have a pretty good chance Well Wiley I dont know of much to write about so I guess I’ll have to chop off. Mary and the baby are both enjoying good health There has been a lot of flu out in this country lately, From Your Bro. Leslie McCarthy Add. Hillyard Wash R.R.# 6 c/o Joe Glomb.”
[On May 19, already married, She and Frank Babcock drove to the “farm” of 5 acres in Huron on Hahn Road. They lived there in the house Elinor’s Father built but there is a large gap that would have covered her early marriage and his death. She describes his death by memory in another diary entry][there is a picture postcard, presumably of Frank Babcock at the wheel/helm of a large boat. It reads: |”What do you think of my position how would you like to hold this wheel you will think me kind of lazy for not answering your letter but I wont forget With best wishes, Frank A Babcock” It is possible this card was to his brother or possibly to Elinor, but probably from this time period]
Mon.May.17.1920 Frank W Babcock came to Cleveland on his boat James E. Davidson working second assistant engineer, & the Cheif told him to come to Lorain & see his girl & so he did & he took me to Elyria to the Court House & then to Rev. Winters where we were married about supper time, We ate Supper up town, Frank took me to Elyria in a big car & then we came back to Lorain & stayed to the Elm Hotel all night Frank left at 4-a.m. for Cleveland. May God Bless Him and make us both strong in body & Spirit. I couldn’t lace my own shoes, the rheumatism is so bad in my back & hips, Well I went home & found lots of work to do as usual & so changed my clothes & went to work, its ever so hard to work. Well,
[Wed. May. 19. 1920] Wed.19. Frank come back & stayed all night he was sick & had two fainting spells Tue. was feeling better again today all though he looks sick yet. I know his work is going to be hard this  Summer, and I hope we can both keep well, to save him any extra worry. I was so glad to see him tonight.
[Thrs. May. 20. 1920]Thurs.[may] 20. Frank left early & I went out & picked up the relicks, of the young peoples horning bee, which took place last night, over one hundred young men & women & boys & girls and they surely did give us a great serenade, they beat old buckets, wash tubs, boilers, pans & cans horned & belled & sang to us Frank gave them some money & they left sat-isfied , they took most of their outfit with them, but what they didn’t take I cleaned up and carried away, I cooked rabbit for supper & thought I’d make pie plant pie, but I threw my right hip out of joint, couldn’t get a Dr so went up town in a taxie & they helped me up to Dr. Eastons & he put my joint back after trying three, some time we’re having Well Franks up the Lakes & I wonder if he will be able to come home when he gets back I have a terrible sore hip. Frank came home from Fairport, I love to have him come & dread to see him go. Well I have neglected to write every day, but I have been feel worse every day, I went to Conneant to see Frank twice the last time, I had Elbert go with me, I was almost afraid I couldnt get home a gain my hip was so bad, I nerved up & got there & back but, had to stay in bed two weeks with syatic rheumatism, Frank poor man was some worried I know, but I was to ill for once to worry. Frank calls me up each time he gets in port & he write me often & those are things that count, much. Elbert is sick a good boy he hardly left me a minute day or night until Audrey came home then he took care of my days, and Audrey nights, I got up just a soon as I could, I surely was some weak & lost 25 lbs. was sure sick, but I want (fr crossed out) Frank & could-nt die, and I want to look after Martha & Audrey, Elbert will miss me to, but then maybe he will have life easier, in the future. Well, Frank’s boat came here to load (quite crossed out) a number of times, two or three, then I have got strong enough to go meet him again, had all most all my teeth out so its kept me weakened for I can only eat soft food. got my upper ones bridges in again
[Gap from May.2020-Oct.2020.
Thurs.Oct.14.1920. Got to have a plate for lower jaw, and jaws to sore to have the empress-ion taken yet. he sheered my upper & lower jaw bones terrible. Franks boat came to Conneant Wed.Oct.13. & Mrs. G & I went Wed. morn & got there at noon & the boat got there at 4.p.m. Frank was with me about 3 hrs & came back to the hotel at midnight 7 stayed.with me untill after breakfast & he see me on the car for home, came all the way on the St. carr. got to Lorain at 1-30 or some thing like that went to Nellie’s for dinner & Audrey & I went back to town, got to the Dentist at 3.p.m. & was in the chair untill 455.p.m.
Sat Oct.23. Franks boat came to Huron & he came home Sun.24th after noon & stayed all night I’ll be so glad when he is done for the winter, and I can be with him
Nov.3rd. Franks boat is going to Conneant & I’m going to meet him. They have had a lot of stormy weather & a snow storm up north and I feel so anxious each trip & hope they wont make many more trips. I Pray God Will Watch over him for me, & that he will be with all the sailors, & help them to remember to do the Master’s Will.
Nov.4. I went to conneant, (added in- left here at 8-1-m& got there at 12 oclock noon.) & sent a message to Frank, then went to Cleveland Hotel & Registered & went to my room & rested until Frank knocked on the door, I was so glad to see him, we had a good visit from 1-p.m. un-till 5.p.m. then he took me part way to the depot & went back to go to the boat, & I went to the depot got on the train at 6.p.m. & got off 9-55.p.m. got off on east side. Gertie had a fire, so I fixed a lunch & some hot tea & then went to bed tired.
Nov.5. Well I lay and rested this morning, for I didn’t sleep until after 2.a.m. I was going to town & got ready to go before dinner, then, Clyde Haught called me from Cleveland and , wished me to come as soon as I could to help take care of Mrs. Haught she’s failiing fast & the Dr. said she could not live more than four days at best. Well, I’m already to go in the morning am going to the Bank, the jewelers, Hursts dry goods store for some floss, Miss Baumgarts for a lunch & get my car at 10-55.a.m. Glen is going to meet me. its a hard Job I’ve got to do & I Pray from the depth of my heart, that God will give me the needed strength to go through this ordeal I do Pray all so that He will be with Frank and Bless him with strength health and keep him safe from harm & evil, and bring him back to me, a good strong, true man. Oh God (this crossed out) it would be like wandering in the wilderness, now, with out Frank, I do thank You for sending him to me, I feel as if I had more to live for, some one to love me & care for me. (Let the words of my mouth & the meditations of my heart, be exceptabley in Thy sight, Oh Lord, my Strength, and my Redeemer.
Sat.6. Well Glen met me & took me home & I went to work taking care of Mrs. Haught she looks terrible, but know what she is doing most of the time, poor soul.
Sun.7. Well I sure am tired, Children get scart and wont let me sleep days & tonight has been a long night.
Mon.8. Well I sleep one hour a day & to night I am wondering where Frank is, I know the lakes are terrible this time of the year and I’ll be all in at the end of this week, worried, tired out & sleepy.
Tue.9. Mrs. Haught has a bad spell every other day, she has a strong constituton & a strong will power, she’s so poor she look like a living skeleton all over it’s terrible.
Wed.10. We have been having nice warm weather on shore, but not so nice up North.
Thurs.11. Well I saw several flock of wild geese going South yesterday & today & tonight at 8 oclock it began to snow & at midnight it was a foot deep on the door step & it’s getting colder to___ I called the Cleveland office & Frank is nearing Detroit & I’m glad & he will be in Lorain tomorrow, I thank God.
Fri.13. I slept one hour this morn & then came home got here at noon bought some eats to bring home & got home at one p.m., had dinner & cleaned my room & took a bath, & Franks boat was passing the house at 2.p.m. Reagan’s grocier launch took him off his boat & put him on our dock & Oh how glad I was to see him, but he could only stay to super & went back at 8.p.m. to the Plant Str James E. to the Davidson they came in with ore & went out light to Toledo for coal, and my heart aches for Frank for he doesn’t look a bit well & he said he felt sick, I’ll be so anxious.
Sat.13. Glen phoned & said Mrs. Haught died at 10.a.m. this morning and I did-n’t need to come Back untill Tue. Nov. 16.
1) Sun.Nov.14.1920. so I had Elbert go back to Nellie’s before we went to bed & Nellie was better and sleeping, Audrey’s working nights, at the National Tube Mill Restruant, as cashier, nights from 11-p.m. untill 7-a.m. I’m anxious to hear from Frank [Frank Babcock, Elinor’s husband].
[Mon. Nov. 15. 1920] Mon.Nov.15. Month’s half gone. I washed today & feel so sick tonight, dried my clothes in the house, it snowed by spells all day & soft wet snow to-night, Nellie went to dentist this after noon & came up home with the babies to night, John’s working this week nights, Audrey has tonight off, so she & Marthas went to the movies & came back here & went home with Nellie & the babys. I received a letter from Frank [Frank Babcock] from Toledo today, he said he would be leaving Sun. night or this morning. Oh God, please do take care of him for Thee & for me & take care all the men on the water, land & sea, for, Thy Sake. Be with every liviing thing, and help it to remember Thee, Dear Heavenly Father. We ask and trust in the Name of the Father the Son & the Holy Ghost.
[Tue. Nov. 16. 1920] 1.)Tue.Nov.16. Well Elbert & I went to Cleveland we took a spray of fern leaves & white carnations, about 3 ft. long, it was pretty, cost $3.00 I paid half on it. We got into C. at noon, Glen & his cousin, a Mr. Haught. met us, they waited untill we went in & had our dinner, then we all went out to the house, waited a half, hr. or more then had the funeral Mrs. Haught looked quite well, she had turned a bluish hue, but they shaded her face so she didn’t show it bad, she had lots of flowers, but not half as many as ma
[Tue. Nov. 16. 1920] 2) had, & she had a very small funeral gathering & ma had one of the largest ever held in Lorain, now isn’t that queer? This is surely a qureer World & I can’t under stand; Both ere the best of True mothers, but not alike Frank Bonney received a letter from pa today & Martha a card. Well I was going to say, we went but to the burying ground, it snowed the night before & all this morning & after noon & when we readched the cemetery the snow had turned to rain & so we the relatives & friends gathered around the grave & bowed in silence while the pastor Methodist prayed, then we went back to the cars & back to the house, the snow had turned to sluch ankle deep, we went in the house, got warm, bid them all good day & left for home, went & got some hot drink, coffee & tea & had to miss two cars they were so packed, met Mrs. Paul Neilson of Lorain, & Mrs. George Doaner of Cleveland, Mrs. D. was also coming to Lorain to meet Mr. D. Who is first mate of the Atr. General Garrettson, We had a nice visite to Lorain getting here a quarter to 8.00-pm. Mr. D. met Mrs. D. at the car little Mrs. N. ask me to call on her & biding me goodnight fled away in the rain Elbert & Mr. & Mrs. D. & I visited ten minutes on the st. & they went to get there supper & go to the plant to their boat, asking us to be sure to come call on them, and spend a few days w2ith them when ever we could ; Elbert called up home & Gertie said she’d have supper ready when we got home, so we caught our car & arrived here at 8-30.p.m. cold, wet, & such splitting head aches, Elbert was hungrey but I was not, I drank some hot tea & they coaxed me to eat and I did & felt a little better went to bed at 11.p.m. & went to sleep at 2.a.m. but was to tired to rest felt all iin & it rained most all night.
[Wed. Nov. 17. 1920] 3) Wed. Nov.17. To down & out to do any work today.
[Thrs. Nov. 18. 1920] Thurs.18. Davidson passed Detroit Mon. night 9.p.m. passed the Soo. yesterday morn. I hope they wont have to go back, after this trip is done, God Bless Them. Well I sewed all the seams up in my tow house dresses & blue skirt. Elbert joined a posse of men police & deputys in a chase after a couble of coons Who had robbed a home on broadway & then try to get away, they had a good chase & caught them near the Root road. Elbert’s sick tonight, has abad cold & did to much running, he got up from dinner & got back just before supper
[Fri. Nov. 19. 1920] Fri.19. Well I went to town at noon, with Nellie we went to the bank & to the dentists, then she went home & I went to the Jewelery store, left Franks ring & got his watch & it stoped before I got home. I called on Miss Baumgart & then went to call on Mrs. Hunter & stayed to supper, went to Mrs Wm Todds and spent the evening, walked to drug store to get the car Bob & his wife & baby came along, she threw her arms around me & looked to see who it was & then, I wouldn’t have known if, I had not seen Bob. Well We walked out Colorado Ave to their home & then they walked on with me to my St. corner, they have a nice baby. got home at 9-p-m. but can’t forget Frank for a minute, Bless his heart, hope he is O.K. God Bless him.
[Sat. Nov. 20. 1920] Sat.20. Martha came up to spend the day & sleep with me tonight. I ironed most all day & mended a while & am tired tonight took a bath & got to bed 10.p.m.
Sun. Nov. 21. 1920] 4) Sun.21. Phone rang. Audrey calling Martha to get up & get ready for Sun. school. she went home to get ready. Well I got dinner & then I went to Church with Nellie & John & the baby, had a fine sermon, every one seemed to be glad ro see us & we shook hands un-till my arm ached, Mrs Lucas ask us over to visit awhile, so we went, she’s so lonesome with out Rev. Lucas. poor girl, but she has her mother to work for & to lo9ve, she’s going to teach school after New Years. it was a quarter to 11-p.m. or 11.p.m. When I reached home. Oh. Dee. Mrs. G. left word for me to call her when I got home & I didk just for fun, called her out of bed, ha,ha.
[Mon. Nov. 22. 1920] Mon.22. Frank [Frank Babcock] ought to be back to the Soo to day or tonight. didn’t get to the dentist’s tomorrow. I made an apron for my self today & put the bands on my collar & cuffs & hemed the front piece, cut the bottoms off my two old ginham skirts & hemed them, cut the bottom edge of, my, founce. & ruffle of my Old white skirt and rehemed them & crocheted a medallion & it’s after 12.p.m. & I’m going to my lonesome bed, and I am ever so sorry for Mrs. Lucas. for Frank will come by & by & Mr. Lucas has gone to help God in the Better World Dear Heavenly Father We thank thee for our many Blessings & we pray thou will for give us & Bless us to Thee, for Jesus Sake.
[new format and paper – single page front and back with no page numbers covering Dec 23, 1920-May 22, 1921]
[Dec . .1920] Frank’s not very well & neither am I. Feb. had all my teeth out & we don’t feel very well, either of us. Mar. & April I think I feel a little stronger in some ways, but I miss my teeth; May Haven’t been a bit well & Frank hasn’t either Nellie’s baby took sick & died
[Tue. Dec.23.1920] tue.23. S.W. wind this morning, S.Wind all after & evening, Sunshiny all day & not very cold. hazy moon tonight, John & Nellie & baby’s, Audrey & Martha ate dinner with Elbert, Frank & I. today.
Dec. Dec. & Jan.  Frank’s not very well & neither am I. Feb.  had all my teeth out & we don’t feel very well, either of us.
Mar. & April  I think I feel a little stronger in some ways, but I miss my teeth,
May.  Haven’t been a bit well & Frank hasn’t either Nellie’s baby took sick & died
May 22nd 1921. Pa set up night & Gertie helped day times for I was not able although I would have tried if the Dr. hadn’t told me I shouldn’t go, that I wasn’t fit to do the work & so forth. (Harvey Vance the baby ) would have been a yr. old June 17 & he was cutting teeth & trying to walk by holding to a chair he was 27 in. long & weighed 23 lbs. he was a good natured little fellow with a smile for every one, they had prayer at the home & services at the church & he was buried in the babys row, at Elm Wood Cemetary.
Frank bought a five acre farm in Huron.
Thurs. May 19. 1921/. We drove over & looked the place over, it’s fine.
Sun. May. 29.  Dan came he likes Frank & We[next page, no number] are having a good visit.
May. 31.  Dan went back to Erie & is coming back again.
Frank & I are Keeping ship on the Str Schoon-maker. We began
June. 4th.  Dan came back & brought Frank & I six Hundred dollars, he & Pa & Frank & John & Audrey & Martha & Mr Fred Parker went out the our farm in Mr. Parkers car, Dan is well please with the place, and he wants to help us.
June. 7. Tue.  Dan went back to Erie & is going to Buffalo. he’s going to help Cap’t Mills paint his house. Elbert has worked quite steady all winter only lost 6 or 8 weeks & pa came home in March went to Wellington & came back in April he has a nice garden.
June. 9. Thurs. Fred & Ethel came home this morn & brought us 16 cockerels out of 26 chickens hatched from 27 eggs Frank gave them. Nellie & Ella Jane came to dinner, also, they all left just before supper. Gertie & Martha went to town, bot back for supper.
1921, November 28: Resident State of Ohio Hunter’s & Trapper’s License No. 305365, signed by Frank Babcock, ” I Certify that Frank W. Babcock applied for a Resident Hunter’s and Trapper’s License, subscribing to an oath that he is a citizen of the United States and a resident of Ohio. He has paid the fee of ONE DOLLAR required by law and is therefore authorized to kill game within said state until December 31st, 1921, subject to all the provisions and penalties of the laws of Ohio regulating the hunting and killing of wild birds and animals. DESCRIPTION OF LICENSEE: Age 39 Occupation Marine Engineer Residence Huron Ohio Height 5ft 8 1/2 ” Weight 150 Color of Hair Brown Color of Eyes Brown Dated in Huron Ohio this 28 day of November 1921. Andrew B Smith Clerk of Huron Township Erie Co State of Ohio (seal embossed)”
[note Frank was to die in 12 years at the age of 51]
1925, May 5, 1925. Letter from “Mother” to F.W.Babcock R 2 Box 46 Huron Ohio, post marked Bayfield Wis. May 6, 1925 2.p.m. “Bayfield Wis May 5. 1925 Dear Wiley and Elinor I am sending you a box the Bed spread I knit and the Pillow cases to match I have used them some and they are a little soiled there was no use washing them if they dont be used write a way and your mothers apron and lace for 2 Pare of slips I have a little bad news for you I have a cancer on my womb and I am going to ashland next week to have my womb taken out and take Radium treatments 2X you answer this as soon as you receive the package ill get it before I go I have to wate untill thay get ready for me will close with lots of love to you both Mother”[other than the Hunting License for Frank Babcock on Nov 28 1921 and a letter from Frank Babcock’s mother May 5, 1925 saying she has cancer, there is a Gap in Diary entries from June 9. 1921-Frank’s death in Feb,1933-1940 (19 year gap) We know that during that time her husband Frank died (2/13/33) and has a Military grave in Ohio as a member of Company D Valpariso, Md. as a Private prior to his work as a merchant marine on Lake Erie. We do not know how much of the 13 years of marriage he was with Elinor and not on the boats. But when they married he was quite sick. We do not know what he died of. And, Elinor did not keep a diary during that marriage. The property in Huron on “Elinor’s Hill” was purchased and her father built a house there at some time during that period of 1920-1933. From 1933-1940 presumably Elinor was living at the Hahn Road Homestead with her brother Elbert who never married. Elinor re-starts the diary in 1940 and it reflects being solidly entrenched in the seasonal rhythm of the Hahn Road Homestead]